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Let's have some real talk today, ladies. Body barriers. They can be pretty harsh sometimes, can't they? I have spoken numerous times before about my insecurities and how I let them affect me and affect my life. For me, it's an ongoing, every day thing. How uncomfortable I am in my own skin is the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last thing I think of when I go to bed. Getting to where I want to be with myself is an ongoing struggle- and a struggle it is. I am working on it, some days more than others, but I am getting there.
I often wonder what it would be like to be completely content with myself. I would imagine there aren't many women in the world who can say that. I have spoken with friends before and said I wish I had their body, then they proceed to tell me all of their insecurities, and vise verse. Crazy, isn't it?
When summer is in the air, there are certain things that I try not to participate in because it requires me to wear a bathing suit. For example, Ella had a birthday party at a pool over the summer. I showed up in my clothes while the other moms showed up in their bathing suits. I sat along the sideline and watched Ella in the pool while other mom's were in the pool having fun. Why? All because of my insecurities. I wonder sometimes if Ella remembers that I didn't get in the pool with her.
I can't keep doing that. I can't keep skipping out out on things like that, or keep my coverup on and lay on a chaise lounge with a towel over my stomach. My girls are at the age where they start to notice these things. I always do my best to not complain about my insecurities in front of them. Ever. But what crosses their mind when I don't even want to get in the pool because I would have to be out and about in my bathing suit? I would hate to look back when my girls are all grown up and have so many regrets all because of my worries about my back fat or my unflattering chest.
What hold's you back? What body barriers hold you back from making the most of the season?
Being so insecure to the point of not wanting to do anything but stay covered up is just plain selfish. Why should my girls have to miss out having fun with their Mommy all because I am worried that people will be looking at my cellulite, or my boobs that droop a little too much for a 34-year-old?
This season, I am trying. Trying so hard to embrace the season with no reservations and insecurities, just confidence. One of the ways I am trying is by finding the perfect bathing suit. The bathing suit that I feel comfortable enough in to have fun and let loose without worrying what I look like.
Target has a great selection of swimsuits for all shapes and sizes. Plus, they have a convenient free shipping and returns policy, which I have already taken advantage of. Over the years, I have found some tips to be very useful when bathing suit shopping, whether in store or online:
~Try on two sizes. Even if you think you know what size you are, try on two. Try on the size you normally are, and one size larger. In the past, I have always sized up in my bathing suits, which has helped with fit.
~Also, step out of the fitting room. Who cares if there are other people around. Step out and check yourself out in the dressing room area mirror. If you can't even walk out of your fitting room in the bathing suit, how do you expect to wear it on the beach or in the pool?
~If you can't make it into the store, or see a swimsuit online that isn't in store, take advantage of Target's free shipping and returns and order multiple sizes. Believe me, it's much easier to order the same suit in a few sizes, rather than ordering in one size and having it not fit.
This season, Target is starting a #NOFOMO (no fear of missing out) movement to empower women (that's you!) to rethink your approach to swimsuit season. With their extensive selection of swimsuits, they make it easy and fun to embrace confidence and excitement over your insecurities and inhibitions.
#NOFOMO is Target’s cry to stop missing out on the best of summer because of body insecurities, or because you don't want to wear a swimsuit. You can feel more confident in expressing your style! Take a little leap and be more creative with your style, too!
My #NOFOMO pledge is to actually play in the pool with my daughters. Like I said, usually I put on a cover up, immediately park myself in a chair or chaise and use a towel or my coverup to drape over my stomach (even in a one piece) because I am too insecure. I don't want my daughters to notice or pick up on that anymore. I am tossing the towel and coverup and doing a cannonball in the pool!! I am going to play in the sand with my girls, building sand castles and digging for sand crabs. I am going to take my daughter to her pool parties and actually enjoy myself in the pool with the other moms! When my girls are grown and look back, are they going to remember what I looked like in my swimsuit or will they remember that I was in the pool with them splashing and having fun?
I am tired of always being insecure. It is exhausting to say the least. My husband and I were in Mexico last week, and taking these pictures was a huge first step for me. I get insecure when we do photo shoots in public when I am wearing clothes, so you can imagine my insecurities when I removed my coverup, but by the end of the photo shoot, the end of the trip even, my attitude had changed.
In fact, I even participated in a few pool activities with other people on our trip and complete strangers at the resort. At one point, I was having too much fun to feel insecure! I'm telling you, there is too much fun to be had! Take the #NOFOMO pledge!
Outfit 1 Details:
Bathing Suit: c/o Target /// Cover Up: Target (similar) /// Hat: Target (similar) /// Sandals: Target (similar)
Outfit 2 Details:
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