I Threw My Daughter a Store Bought Birthday Party Because I am Not a Pinterest Mom-And I am OK With That

I have never really been super crafty-it just isn’t in my nature. I am also not really into interior decorating-I have never had a knack for seeing something and thinking “Oh that will look cute on the shelf in my living room with this knick knack and that!” I have generally had the same decorations in my house since we moved into it seven years ago and I am ok with that.

Sure, I look at Pinterest and see dream living rooms, and even dreamier bedrooms. But that’s about where it stops. You see all of that costs money, and requires some sort of creativity and a whole heck of a lot of time-my cups don’t runneth over. Because of that, I have come to be perfectly happy and content with what I have decorating my house. 

Also, I currently have fake poop adorning the strategically placed book/magazine pile sitting on my coffee table, so there’s that….

Activities for my kids-another thing that I am not creative or imaginative with. I’ve never been one to think “oh I bet I could cut this up, glue it to this, and have my girls use it to learn their ABC’s in a fun, new way that doesn’t make it seem like they are learning!” Nope! We will sit here and sing our ABC’s over and over until you learn them! 

It’s hard enough to be a Mom in general, but add in something like Pinterest and it tacks on an unnecessary amount of pressure. It’s so easy to go down the dark rabbit hole that is Pinterest and all of a sudden you’ve wasted 3 hours of your life and have 177 pins of ideas for your daughter’s birthday party that are both unrealistic and expensive (when you factor in your time, yes it is expensive).

You see, I think I am a pretty darn good Mommy. Most of the time. Sure, I have short comings, I lose my cool from time to time, say the wrong thing, let the girls do the wrong thing, but in general I would say I am a good parent, along with Ryan.

I have been a Mommy for 9 years-I don’t know it all, nor will I ever. But one thing I think I have a pretty good grasp on is that there is no way in hell I am, nor will even be a Pinterest Mom. I tried early on, maybe when Ella was younger, and begrudgingly realized it wasn’t me. 

There were countless times I was stressed because their cakes weren’t Pinterest worthy and were made from a box-one time I tried to make Ella a cake in the shape of a bomb for her Spy Kids themed party and it was the most misshaped bomb I have ever seen! I’ve also felt stressed because my living room didn’t look like it belonged in a magazine, or I felt like a crappy parent because there weren’t going to be fun games at their birthday parties or even better, perfectly assembled goody bags. 

I don’t exactly know when “it” clicked for me, but one day, I just gave Pinterest, and all of the stupid expectations and pressure that comes along with it a giant middle finger (don’t get me wrong, I love Pinterest in general-I love a good outfit inspiration or crockpot recipe!). 

I mean, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t envious of these gals who can pin some inspiration to their Pinterest boards and go to town-I wish I had their patience, their crafty-ness, their income. For the last several birthday’s, both Ella and Charlotte have had what I call “store bought” birthday parties-I literally buy everything from the store. Typically it’s a combo of Target, Party City and sometimes the Dollar Tree. Plates, ‘happy birthday’ banner, other cheesy decorations that are needed, you name it! And more often than not, their cake comes from a box and balloons your basic latex blown up by us!

And you know what? My girls have the BEST time. Our friends enjoy themselves, pictures show everyone smiling, laughing, making memories and having a great time. That’s what I see when I look at all the pictures I took. That’s what I think of when I look back on the memories of their parties. I don’t think about how the cake came from a boxed mix that I bought at Target, or that I spent a total of $20 on all of the decorations. 

I can tell you my girls don’t care either-because I didn’t make their parties Pinterest worthy doesn’t mean I love them less, or I am not a cool Mom, it doesn’t make me any less perfect than the Mom who threw their daughter a party that will be pinned and repinned over and over again. I mean look at Charlotte in the picture above-she is beyond happy that she is having the party of her dreams (which just so happens to be a poop emoji themed party…whatever lol!)

And let me just say-to those Mom’s who are the epitome of Pinterest-you keep doing you. Good for you-if it’s something you love and you are good at, go for it and keep plugging away! 

Me? I’ll be over here, just trying to do my best to not burn the cake, keep the tape that’s holding up my $5 “Happy Birthday” banner from unsticking, and not assembling goody bags for the kids that come to the party. Because honestly, they got delicious food and cake and got to play with “new to them” toys for a few hours-that’s your goody bag (hehehe). 

Moms- don’t be so hard on yourself to be the perfect Pinterest Mom or to throw the perfect Pinterest party. Get over that notion. Get over it, move on, just love your kids the best you know how, even if it’s with cheap, store bought decorations!



  1. Ellen Ross | Ask Away
    September 20, 2017 / 11:51 am

    Oh my gosh this is awesome! I am so not a pinterest person either. I just don't have the skill I guess lol. I really lvoe this though and all that matters is that you guys all had a great day<3 XO Ellen from Ask Awaywww.askawayblog.com

  2. Kayla Kaplowitz
    September 21, 2017 / 9:02 pm

    Love this, Becky! I've only been a mom for 5 months and think I'm going to lean in the direction of 1/2 & 1/2. Half store-bought and 1/2 Pinterest-y mom — mainly because I see some of the things on Pinterest as a challenge for me to tackle or try. For example: I've never ever ever sewed anything in my life, but am going to attempt a Wonder Woman Halloween costume for my little Zoey. She may turn out looking like a smurf with a cape, but at least it'll be hilarious to look at pics later 🙂 PS: I love your blog & Insta-stories!!

  3. Laura Anne Bird
    September 24, 2017 / 5:21 pm

    I'm not a pinterest mom in the least – and it doesn't matter one bit. 🙂 As moms, we can pick and choose what we want to invest our time and energies in: as long as we are loving our kids at the end of the day (and making sure they are healthy and safe), that's the most important thing. Cheers to a store-bought birthday party, woot woot!! xx

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